Sometimes, when the kids are in the picture, women automatically become the loyal parent, concentrating on the kid and the men feel left out. This happens because they do not see anyone else taking on the responsibility. To deal with this, have a parent to look after the child at times while you give yourselves a day off and go on dates. Let her feel light. The best would be that you both divide the kid chores between you. She feeds, you take care of the homework. Take your child down for playing so that your wife can relax for an hour or two at least. Share the burden.